While parenting we experience tons of ups and downs, highs and lows, first times and then all the time. Because we are so focused on our littles, we sometimes forget that we ourselves go through the same process day in and day out. I’m talking about your first born, I’m talking about time management, I’m talking about balancing work and home. I’m talking about; dinner, working out, adult time…. you know LIFE!
What is one thing that encompasses both parenting and personal? Self Love.
This is yet another reminder that we need to give ourselves grace. By defenition: To do honor or credit to (someone or something) by one's presence. It’s time we give ourselves a pat on the back. Just because our children our growing and figuring out life, doesn’t mean that we have suddenly stopped doing so.
I personally have gone through a wide variety of Life in my short 28 years. These experiences are great building blocks for similar situations I may encounter in the future. It also does make it easier to relate with others too, but by no means is it a one size fits most life guide. What I am saying is no two situations are the same. Even similar stories have their differences. I am certain my next child will be nothing like my first born, the pregnancy alone will be it’s own. My point is everyone is different. Everyone has their own personalized life building blocks, no one set is similar. We have to start learning to love our own, and not compare to what our neighbors have.
With social media at an all time high, it’s easy to get consumed in Why’s?
Why didn’t I work out today?, Why didn’t I pack my kids a healthy gourmet lunch?, Why didn’t I decorate my house better?, Why does she always have time for makeup and I don’t?, Why do they always go on vacation, and I can’t even find a babysitter?, Why do they have so much money, when she is a SAHM too?, Why is her belly so small, and I was so swollen and huge?, Why, Why, Why??
Let’s just kick it old school for a second. If there was no social media (gasp!), we would actually only wonder these things based on what we heard over a telephone, or in person. Which means, you would actually spend your time talking to people you actually know. Therefore you would have the background information to your pondering questions. Maybe your friends are able to go on vacations because they have a mobile job, and are great savers. Perhaps, your neighbor shops at local farmers markets and has a garden in their backyard, because for their family it’s more economical than going out to big chain stores. Your friend wakes up an hour before her family to work out, or to get herself ready, before she tends to everyone else.
We do not know what anyone does in their day in and day out. We do not know their own personal highs and lows, we do not know how many, or how little times they had to do something to be where they are at now. The importance of my rant is everyone is trying their best. Sometimes life seems unfair, but they might be thinking the same thing and we have NO IDEA.
The dishes will ALWAYS be there, I can guarantee it! Laundry too, unless you become a nudist. Work and Personal life will be a teeter-totter you will always be balancing. Some days you get a workout in, others you may have took a nap, which by the way still burns calories! We need to recognize all the amazing things we do, and how far we have come. Think of what you did a month ago, a year ago, 3-5 years ago. Are you the same person? What do you do now that you didn't before?
Everyday we are growing and learning, and teaching our littles. Let’s also teach them how to love themselves too. They learn best by example. Start with you. Before you go to bed tonight list three things you did great today! Slayed a work presentation, got a smile from your little when you gave them a bite of their food, put on tennis shoes instead of sandals, because you knew you were going to be doing some major mom walking today… The little things are what we are made of, Let us not dismiss our everyday triumphs.
Did I tell you, you’re amazing!
Take in those little moments full of love.
Stephanie + Brittany here! We'll be sharing different topics week to week depending on what life throws at us! Funny moments, frustrating moments, heart to hearts, epiphanies, ideas, thoughts and anything in between.