Hey mama’s it’s been a while, How are you?
No but really, HOW ARE YOU?
Does that question seem like it’s always on auto response?
“Good, Tired, Busy, Surviving”… As much as we would love to really answer that question we either feel, 1. That’s a whole rabbit hole even I don’t want to go down,
2. They don’t really want to hear all my drama,
3. They’re just asking to be nice, and I don’t have time to really get into details.
So we give them the quick elevator speech. But then at night our minds can race…. It’s usually about all the things we have to do, and we keep pushing ourself out of the picture.
I want to talk about connecting with ourselves. In this day and age where you can literally be connected with anyone or anything in the palm of your hand, how connected are you with the person who is with your 24-7? YOU. This is something that I am currently working on improving.
Especially now that I am a mother, I want to be 100% certain on what I believe and what I value, not only to demonstrate as an example for my daughter, but also so she knows she is able to choose her own beliefs as well. You can only build up, if you have a strong foundation to begin with. I have never really had to ask myself these questions before. That is a privilege, and ignorance at the same time that I am aware of. Stepping into this new role has brought up a lot of different things for me. I want to be my best self, for my daughter and my family. But how can I be my best self if I don't know who she is. That's what I'm currently working on. What I am learning is, to error is human.
It’s about how we grow from those errors.
So cliché but so true.
Lately, my self-connection has been back and forth flickers of diving into it, and slinking back out. I am ok with that. Because it led me here, to talk publically about it which I probably wouldn’t have ever done before. Before becoming responsible for another human life, I was just living. I’m not even quite sure if I was really truly living for myself though. I think it was just living, going through the day to day motions. I now am on my own journey of Self-Connection Self Discovery.
What do I value? Who am I? Describe Brittany? What qualities do I admire about myself that I want to attract to the people I surround myself with?
They may sound self centered, but how can we know what or where we want out of our life if we don’t start with ourselves first.
So on good days, when I am present on self care street; I meditate, I take naps when I’m tired,
I’ll read a few chapters in a book, I will Gua Sha my face (so relaxing), I will do yoga, I will write out my feelings in a post for you to read :) , I’ll try out a new recipe, I will listen to my podcasts, these things make me feel productive in my own sense. But there are the days when I do none of those things, I get sucked into a social media worm hole and my whole day is gone. Those days are there too. I’m trying to find a healthy balance. I am also forgiving myself and starting over when I need to.
Whatever you like to do that when you’re doing it and you’re not thinking about anything else, that’s your self care. When you can be in the moment for you, and only you. Knowing that you have been fulfilled even if it’s for a slight moment, you’re more likely to fill the cups of others because you are no longer on empty. So as I continue to work on myself, don’t forget about you. Connecting with and knowing ourselves is the best gift we can give us. Love yourself a little more. I know I am.
Stephanie + Brittany here! We'll be sharing different topics week to week depending on what life throws at us! Funny moments, frustrating moments, heart to hearts, epiphanies, ideas, thoughts and anything in between.