It has been the most humbling experience I have ever had and it continues to humble me on a daily basis.
Q: How old is your kid(s)? A:2 1/2 years old
Q: What did you think when you found out you were pregnant? A:"No, that can't be right?... I'm not pregnant. That second line is it really light blue?" *Reads box with best friend* "If there is a blue line present, even if it is faded, reading is positive." "Should I take another one?" *Reads box again* "Tests are 99% accurate." *Takes another test* "Oh maybe it really is that accurate!"
We were literally cry laughing so hard because that darn box had all the hard facts on it and it shut us down so quick. In all seriousness - It was certainly a surprise and the last thing I was expecting at the time, so I was in shock at first. It was not the fairy tale story I wish it had been, but motherhood has taught me that that's ok! But I've always wanted to be a mom (my #1 goal in life) so I just couldn't believe I had hit that milestone. And I kept wondering what she would look like. I just think it's so magical that you create this baby that is half of you, and is going to look like you, act like you, etc!! It still amazes me to this day.
Q:Was your birth what you had envisioned or different from previous birth(s)? A:My birth could not have been more opposite, and I fought it every step of the way (which I will never do again). I delayed my doctor's orders to get induced once I was full term out of fear of being induced and the desire to have a more natural birthing process, so I was 41 1/2 weeks when I delivered. I didn't want an epidural, but I got one. I wanted to deliver vaginally, but I had a C-section. But in the end, my baby was healthy and safe, so looking back, none of that mattered any way.
Q: How do you like to relax? Or take time for yourself? A:I'm honestly still figuring this out. I didn't know this was something I was supposed to be doing all along!!! It's amazing how much your little ones naturally take priority over yourself as you're learning to be a first time mom. It can be so overwhelming that you just unintentionally put yourself on the back burner. I honestly just like to sleep when my daughter's asleep! When I'm not sleeping, I do enjoy going to the gym, taking a shower (kid-free), reading a book, doing yard work (it's seriously relaxing), or walking around Target (you were all thinking it).
Q: What is one thing you have noticed a change in yourself since becoming a mom? A:Am I supposed to be positive here? Because honestly... ANXIETY! SO. MUCH. ANXIETY. But on a more positive note, I am learning to just roll with it. Staying at home with a toddler is the most unpredictable thing I've ever experienced. I think we want our days to go a certain way (perfect routine, well-behaved child, clean house), but with toddlers you never know what mood you're going to get, what tantrums we're going to have or why, etc. I've slowly been learning that it's ok to have bad days, but with bad days, we can still be happy in the midst of it.
" Our favorite place to hang..."
Q: From wherever you are at this moment, looking back would you have done anything differently? A:This is such a tough question, because our perspective's change SO MUCH as parents. So I guess in order to not give myself such a hard time, I would say no. But in reality yes, I just wish I wouldn't have given myself such a hard time on second guessing whether I'm doing a good job or not and JUST RELAX. I think I am too hard on myself and think too much about what other parents would do if they were in my shoes and if I'm doing what's best for my daughter. But I think the less I worry about all of that, the better parent I'll be!
Q: What lesson has motherhood has taught you? A:GRACE. We all need grace, and not one of us is perfect or has it all together. It's okay to just be a hot mess sometimes, because it's not easy. Motherhood has brought me the most amazing friendships because motherhood is such a special bond where we all just get each other. It's seriously a battlefield (it's beautiful, but you know what I mean). My perspective towards mothers (and women in general) has changed so much in the sense that I am way less inclined to be judge mental because I have had such tough days myself, and I just get it now. I get how hard and messy it can be, and how sometimes we all just need a big hug. It has been the most humbling experience I have ever had and it continues to humble me on a daily basis.
Q: Any advice for moms to be? A: 1. Be prepared to "adjust" your expectations, there is so much that is out of our control. 2. Don't be so hard on yourself, if you're doing the best you can, that's enough. 3. Don't be so hard on other parents, they're most likely trying just as hard as you, even if it looks a little different. 4. Ask for help and talk to other adults! It's so nice to sit around and just laugh about parenthood... it's also extremely therapeutic